YOU HAD ME AT BONJOUR - Ep. 5 - "Autopsy of a Breakup"

Dec 14, 2023

How do you get closure when something is over?

Is it something someone else can give us, or something we give ourselves? 

My guest Amy Dresner asks this question and more as she embarks on this a healing journey around sex, love and dating in recovery.

Learn how I answered this question and have a laugh, have a cry, get ready this is real talk. You would expect nothing less from us, right? Right.

My guest Amy Dresner is a journalist, author, and former comedian as well as a recovering addict and alcoholic. She was a regular columnist for the addiction/recovery magazine since 2012 and has freelanced for, Psychology Today, Vice, Salon and many other publications.

Her first book, “My Fair Junkie: A Memoir of Getting Dirty and Staying Clean,” was published by Hachette in 2017 to rave reviews from critics and readers alike. Elle magazine compared Dresner’s darkly comic memoir to Carrie Fisher’s “Postcards from the Edge” and Mary Karr’s “Lit,” calling Dresner’s book “one for the ages.”

Dresner has appeared on the television show The Doctors and on numerous radio shows and podcasts, including Dr. Drew, Dopey and Rich Roll. She does regular speaking engagements around the U.S. She is the co-host to Joe Schrank of the new Rehab Confidential Podcast. Her book is currently in development for a TV series.

In This Episode:

[1:28] Amy’s hilarious take on “withdrawal.”

[2:32] “Against everyone’s advice I unblocked my ex…” 

[5:08] And now he wants to meet up? Major red flag… what will she do with it? 

[5:40] Even Amy’s Dad agrees it was her decision to hold onto the pain and resentment, although she did everything she knew how to do to let it go. 

7:22] I asked Amy: What do you need to be at peace with this? HER BRILLIANT INSIGHT IS: I need to know I can have that again. 

[8:55] The portal to hell (AKA it’s about mom) 

[10:20] Primal fear when the wound is triggered is real ya’ll. 

[12:12] Living in abundance [ Je suis la reine de fromage] 

[14:00] Another new awareness, the experience of a behavior “relapse.” 

[16:23] Amy’s hilarious answer when I ask; are you willing to try something different. 

[19:23] Conclusion: can you give yourself what mom couldn’t give you? 


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