The story of an impossible love that actually works out

You Had Me at Bonjour is a romantic memoir set between Los Angeles and Paris—a true story of midlife love, recovery, reinvention, and what happens when the life you thought you wanted collides with the love you never expected.

Praise for You Had Me at Bonjour

- Elizabeth Gilbert

Author of Eat, Pray Love and All The Way To The River

Dufflyn's book shows us that love - in all of its messy, glorious, hand-wringing forms - can always be worth it if we're willing to be brave. You Had Me At Bonjour is the perfect Paris love story in that it is not perfect. It is hard and funny and delightful and at the end of the day, much like Paris itself. Exquisitely beautiful but also a poignant lesson in the work that love can require.

You Had Me at a Bonjour is one of the rarest of romantic memoirs - one where love actually...wins! Dufflyn is a beautiful writer. Just when you think romance is dead, You Had Me at Bonjour reminds us that we can find love in the unlikeliest people, even if it's in the likeliest of places! - Jennifer Pastiloff, author of National Bestseller “On Being Human”

You Had Me at Bonjour is a reminder to us all that love is very much alive. Dufflyn’s memoir breaks your heart and fixes it in what is a helpful guide in transformative commitment and powerful testimony of healing, growth, and righting wrongs through the chance encounter with the love of your life. - Saul Williams, rapper, musician, poet, and actor

You Had Me At Bonjour is an extraordinary story of resilience, romance and recovery. This story captured me with it’s magic from page one. Dufflyn has the courage to say the things so many of us want to say but feel we aren’t allowed to say. You feel like she’s telling your story, because really it is the story of love.” - Sia, singer, songwriter, pop sensation

A Memoir About Love, Recovery & Reinvention

Available now as audiobook or eBook from Rise Literary (Simon & Schuster)

The perfect book for readers who loved Eat, Pray Love. On the brink of 40, Dufflyn Lammers had a résumé full of almosts: almost love, almost success, almost escape. Armed with a strange inherited “magic” and a deep fear of becoming another forgotten Hollywood story, she does the only thing that makes sense - she gets on a plane to Paris.

And then… she meets Benjamin.

He’s magnetic. He’s French. He’s fresh out of heroin addiction and on parole for carjacking. Naturally, they fall in love. What unfolds is a raw, electric story about desire, delusion, and the risk of choosing love when everything—logic, history, survival—says girl, no. In Paris, Dufflyn discovers that after years of self-work and recovery, love might finally be real… or it might be the most dangerous fantasy yet.

If you like true stories about recovery, or you're looking for memoirs about starting over in mid-life or books about finding love in Paris, you've hit the jackpot!

You Had Me At Bonjour is a genre-bending romantic memoir that weaves surreal, whimsical elements into true events—exploring the space where fantasy collapses and intimacy begins. Think: the poetic introspection of White Magic meets the seductive backdrop of Emily in Paris—but with real stakes, real heartbreak, and real transformation. This is a story about longing, self-deception, devotion, and the courage to see clearly—especially when you don’t want to.

It’s funny. It’s devastating. It’s hopeful. And it just might make you believe in love again.

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Live Book Readings, Author Events & Relationship Workshops

PARIS Book Launch Party

At the Red Wheelbarrow Bookstore, 10 Rue de Medicis, 75006 in Paris. June 4th, 2026 7pm. Join Dufflyn for a reading, complimentary drinks, and be the first to get your hands on the audiobook, ebook, and even a limited edition singed print copy.

Global Exchange Conference

Dufflyn will be presenting at the Signature Event for Professionals in Mental Health, Wellness, and Recovery. December 6-9, 2026 at the MGM Grand in Las Vegas, NV USA.

Story Magic 2 Day Paris Retreat

At the historic Odéon Theatre, focused on embodied coaching, integrative writing, and reconnecting with your story in a way that feels meaningful (and honestly, a little magical). It’s not a typical writing retreat—it’s more of a creative renaissance. Dufflyn will guide you through generative writing prompts and you will receive editorial feedback from Kristen McGuiness (Rolling Stone, Oprah Daily, LA Times Bestselling author and CEO of Rise Literary)