Hey there gorgeous!

If you are a woman who wants to create healthy, empowering relationships without  resorting to Tequila, Ben & Jerry’s or *67, you’re in the right place

I have some ideas that could help if...


  • You’re struggling with sex, love and dating and you’d really rather discover how to be confident, sassy, and in the flow with all that

  • You are the partner of an addicted person and are ready to heal from the adverse effects of living with active addiction (oh girl, I feel you)
  • You’re feeling stuck in relational patterns and while you haven’t lost your sense of humor about that, it’s really heartbreaking and painful and isn’t it time you did something about it?
  • You’re healing from a divorce or separation and you could use some support to walk into the next stage of your life like a QUEEN
  • You’re contemplating ending your relationship and you’re just not sure if you should stay or go…

In the community

Known for her work with high-performing individuals, Dufflyn’s private clients include Oscar-winning actors, business pioneers, and multiple Grammy-winning musicians. She is passionate about creative living and contributing to the  community. Below are a few articles and videos.

Dates & Mates with Damona Hoffman

Dufflyn and Damona dish on boundaries, fighting fair, emotional regulation, and more in this HOT episode of the popular dating podcast

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Can You Really Be Addicted to Love? 

Dufflyn's talk at the She Recovers Mental Health Monday Recovery Educational Series on the subject of Love Addiciton


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I Didn't Want to Marry Him, Or Did I? 

A Personal Essay by Dufflyn in the LA Times' LA Affairs Column


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Single Life 

Dufflyn's hilarious spoken word anthem on Russel Simmons Def Poetry (HBO) 


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Trauma Thrivers with Lou Lebentz


Dufflyn visits with Lou and Melanie at the Trauma Thrivers Podcast to talk about healing attachment trauma. 

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Discovered Solo Play

A Story of Drugs, Alcohol, Hollywood and “Mama," at the Hollywood Fringe Festival, 2017

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We Are All Recovering From Something 

A Performance at at the SHE RECOVERS FOUNDATION GALA at SHE RECOVERS in LA | Beverly Hilton September 2018

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How to Date in Recovery with Michelle Manley


Dating Coach Michelle Manley interviews Relationship & Recovery Coach Dufflyn Lammers about how to date in recovery.

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Sex In Recovery with She Recovers


“What is sex?” and “How might sex be different in recovery? What about attachment styles, addictions, and getting what you need before, during and after sex? 

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Hi, I'm Dufflyn and this is my TRUE love story...


For as long as I can remember, I felt a terrible longing for love. 


Whenever I found someone who treated me right, I ran. Mostly I ran AFTER someone else, someone who wasn’t even capable of loving me back. 


Love felt like power to me, and I didn’t know how to stand in my power back then.


The moment someone was mine, I felt a deep fear I would lose them. Jealousy consumed me. 


I couldn’t even receive the love that was there. 


There were so many situations in my life where I was haunted by romance. 


I had left my first boyfriend for a man who I worked with, who was separated from his wife and who was dating a friend of mine. In the end he left us all in the dust and I had to move to another city, get another job, and find new friends. 


Heartache was my comfort zone.


I was in and out of one toxic relationship after another throughout my twenties and thirties using relationships as another way to satiate my need for “enoughness.”


For years, this was my self sabotage cycle. 


I couldn’t receive love because of my shame, and I couldn’t stop chasing it because of the longing. 


And all at the same time, it made me feel temporaliy happy for that fleeting moment when I got some attention from whomever I had been chasing. 


Fast forward to Dufflyn now…drug free, alcohol free, and no more unavailable men. 


These days I am an empowered woman when it comes to love. 


I am teaching women how to create relationships that are in alignment and integrity with their purpose, their values and their vision. 


I am pushing new relationship standards.


I finally let someone love me and it’s been 9 years now. 


I don’t cancel dates with my girlfriends or abandon myself to please him. 


I don’t feel shame about what I want and what I need from my partner. 


I trust myself to take care of myself and I know I’ll be happy with him or without him. 


I am excited to lead you on this journey with your OWN love story!


I am honored to cultivate love with you, 


To call love in…


And to anchor you into the knowing that there is always more than enough.


From the Outside In and the Inside Out

We use a tried and true Coaching method to work from the “outside in” to develop a plans goals and actionable steps and provide accountability that will give you immediate relief.

And we work from the “inside out” using the clinically proven Ideal Parent Figure Protocol technique to generate an internal shift that will change the way you feel about yourself, the world, and others in a deep and lasting way.

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