YOU HAD ME AT BONJOUR - Ep. 4 - "The Friend Zone"

Dec 14, 2023

How do we feel about the “friend zone?” 

We may start off thinking we’re fine being friends. 

Listen in as Amy and I dig deeper to see why she’s ending up feeling confused.

That pesky “friend zone” can be a false friend, an imposter, and if we aren’t careful we can end up in a holding pattern.

Amy has some amazing insights in this session. You don’t want to miss it!

My guest Amy Dresner is a journalist, author, and former comedian as well as a recovering addict and alcoholic. She was a regular columnist for the addiction/recovery magazine since 2012 and has freelanced for, Psychology Today, Vice, Salon and many other publications.

Her first book, “My Fair Junkie: A Memoir of Getting Dirty and Staying Clean,” was published by Hachette in 2017 to rave reviews from critics and readers alike. Elle magazine compared Dresner’s darkly comic memoir to Carrie Fisher’s “Postcards from the Edge” and Mary Karr’s “Lit,” calling Dresner’s book “one for the ages.”

Dresner has appeared on the television show The Doctors and on numerous radio shows and podcasts, including Dr. Drew, Dopey and Rich Roll. She does regular speaking engagements around the U.S. She is the co-host to Joe Schrank of the new Rehab Confidential Podcast. Her book is currently in development for a TV series.

In This Episode:

[:15] Amy is entering the “letting go” phase of withdrawal

[:36] The dude Amy was talking to said he just wants to be friends. 

[2:20] Amy calls out his “come here, go away” behavior.

[6:55] What does a healthy platonic male female relationship look like?

[8:23] This is what I wanted in a pill (but it’s meditation)

[10:37] Amy’s honest admission: “This is the way I’ve manipulated my whole life” Wow. THIS IS HOW THE WORK GETS DONE YA’LL.

[12:21] And here’s what we do with that information…

[14:13] Here it is. Another great insight! Amy sees the pattern.

[18:33] Amy has identified how she feels in the pattern, and how she responds to it. How well is that working?

[21:06] only Amy can take this moment and make it funny – she’s realized she’s not the one driving…and she’s ready to take the power back.

[23:36] Hear the boundary, when they say they just want to be friends, BELIEVE THEM.

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