YOU HAD ME AT BONJOUR - Ep. 2 - "Making the Unconscious Conscious"
Dec 14, 2023The “mother wound.” What is that and how do we heal it?
My guest Amy Dresner shares honestly about her own mother hunger as she continues to heal around sex, love and dating in recovery.
Come along with us as we talk about what this wound looks and feels like, about how our relationships mirror these issues, and how we can face reality and let go of fantasy.
My guest Amy Dresner is a journalist, author, and former comedian as well as a recovering addict and alcoholic. She was a regular columnist for the addiction/recovery magazine theFix.com since 2012 and has freelanced for Addiction.com, Psychology Today, Vice, Salon and many other publications.
Her first book, “My Fair Junkie: A Memoir of Getting Dirty and Staying Clean,” was published by Hachette in 2017 to rave reviews from critics and readers alike. Elle magazine compared Dresner’s darkly comic memoir to Carrie Fisher’s “Postcards from the Edge” and Mary Karr’s “Lit,” calling Dresner’s book “one for the ages.”
Dresner has appeared on the television show The Doctors and on numerous radio shows and podcasts, including Dr. Drew, Dopey and Rich Roll. She does regular speaking engagements around the U.S. She is the co-host to Joe Schrank of the new Rehab Confidential Podcast. Her book is currently in development for a TV series.
In This Episode:
[0:55} Amy’s take on the “mother wound.”
[4:25] How do we begin to heal this?
[8:17] “He’s a mirror for your issues” Well, yeah!
[10:30] You didn’t get what you didn’t get as a result you are still chasing it. And Amy’s BRILLIANT confession about her friendships with women.
[12:53] We are making the unconscious, conscious and so this is how we begin the work.
[14:30] But maybe if I just hold on I’ll get what I want…. OH GAWD, have we all been there or what?
[16:04] ANOTHER REALLY REALLY AMAZING MOMENT FOR AMY! She twisted herself into a pretzel, and the guy still didn’t stay! And while we know that sucks, seeing it is the path to healing it.
[17:10] Is it about “balls” or is it about faith? (I’ll go with faith).
[17:34] Amy reveals that while she thought spending time alone would heal her, she’s the same person 3 years in. Time does not heal all wounds it turns out.
[18:40] Whatever happened, happened, so what we can get is perspective, a new way of telling our story, and as we begin to practice self-soothing we can make new choices and stop repeating the past. This is what the work will get you.
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