YOU HAD ME AT BONJOUR - Ep. 14 - "The Ideal Parent Figure Protocol"

Dec 14, 2023

Is insecurity standing the the way of you and the relationship you want? There is a solution!   

It’s called IPF: Ideal Parent Figure Protocol and it is the subject of this episode.

IPF was developed by Daniel P. Brown at Harvard University. The protocol is part of his 3 Pillars approach to treating attachment disturbances in adults. And it works. There is ample clinical evidence. (see below)

In this episode I explain briefly what IPF is and how it works and Amy (who has been receiving the treatment with me for several months already) lets you be a fly on the wall during her session.

Amy is making huge progress and we are moving to a new level in her treatment with the IPF. 

My guest Amy Dresner is a journalist, author, and former comedian as well as a recovering addict and alcoholic. She was a regular columnist for the addiction/recovery magazine since 2012 and has freelanced for, Psychology Today, Vice, Salon and many other publications.

Her first book, “My Fair Junkie: A Memoir of Getting Dirty and Staying Clean,” was published by Hachette in 2017 to rave reviews from critics and readers alike. Elle magazine compared Dresner’s darkly comic memoir to Carrie Fisher’s “Postcards from the Edge” and Mary Karr’s “Lit,” calling Dresner’s book “one for the ages.”

Dresner has appeared on the television show The Doctors and on numerous radio shows and podcasts, including Dr. Drew, Dopey and Rich Roll. She does regular speaking engagements around the U.S. She is the co-host to Joe Schrank of the new Rehab Confidential Podcast. Her book is currently in development for a TV series.

In This Episode:

[:15] What is IPF A powerful modality for attachment repair. 

[3:15] Amy got triggered when her agent didn’t tell her what she wanted to hear.

[4:28] Amy names the feelings: defeat, shame, fear, jealousy, overwhelm, disappointment.

[5:10] Is Amy a closet Christian? More of that classic Amy humor.

[6:05] Amy’s colonoscopy accoutrements are hanging in the background. Good times.

[6:35] This part of IPF is called the induction. 

[9:11] Amy finds a memory that matches the feeling.

[10:11] We invite Amy’s Ideal Parent Self in.

[14:14] Another memory comes up–on the school bus. 

[17:50] Amy’s Ideal Parent Self is able to really soothe her and she begins to get regulated.

[20:10] I bring Amy out of the IPF.

[20:42] Amy is concerned her abuse is “minor.” 

[21:31] Amy is becoming an IPF Ninja!

[22:23] It’s important to be consistent with IPF

[23:00] Amy acknowledges her dating progress! 

Links for stuff we talked about in this episode:

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