YOU HAD ME AT BONJOUR - Ep. 13 - "Clarity"

Dec 14, 2023

What’s the most important element of recovery from Sex & Love Addiction, Codependency, and Attachment Disorder?  


This is a central theme in all forms of recovery, no matter where you are coming from. And we talked about it in our last episode but now we’re going to dig deeper as Amy creates her Dating Plan.

Living in the vague, uncertain, bog of “maybe” has to become a thing of the past if we are going to move toward healthy empowering relationships.

Amy is getting MEGA CLEAR and in this episode we continue to create her Dating Plan, the map she’ll use to step forward into a new experience.

My guest Amy Dresner is a journalist, author, and former comedian as well as a recovering addict and alcoholic. She was a regular columnist for the addiction/recovery magazine since 2012 and has freelanced for, Psychology Today, Vice, Salon and many other publications.

Her first book, “My Fair Junkie: A Memoir of Getting Dirty and Staying Clean,” was published by Hachette in 2017 to rave reviews from critics and readers alike. Elle magazine compared Dresner’s darkly comic memoir to Carrie Fisher’s “Postcards from the Edge” and Mary Karr’s “Lit,” calling Dresner’s book “one for the ages.”

Dresner has appeared on the television show The Doctors and on numerous radio shows and podcasts, including Dr. Drew, Dopey and Rich Roll. She does regular speaking engagements around the U.S. She is the co-host to Joe Schrank of the new Rehab Confidential Podcast. Her book is currently in development for a TV series.

In This Episode:

[:49] Amy has done the work and now sees her patterns. We’re ready to create her Dating Plan!

[1:12] Has Amy made a pact with the devil? Classic Amy humor.

[2:00] Amy questions if she should like about her age in her online profile.

[3:00] How will she meet guys? My suggestions…

[9:06] Amy worries she’ll have to explain her dating plan to her dates….

[10:28] Amy’s clarity: she’s not interested in repeating the past. Huzzah!

[11:08] Amy’s honest admission: “I’ve been a predator too.”

[12:16] Let’s get clear about boundaries in the recovery community.

[14:14] The process of creating the Dating Plan can bring up anxiety, see how we handled this together.

[15:25] GO SLOW. This is the solution for so much.

[16:36] The recovery is in the clarity.

[17:30] We have to remember to just be where we are. Not in tomorrow or yesterday. Keeping it in the day.

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