YOU HAD ME AT BONJOUR - Ep. 12 - "Is It A Date"

Dec 14, 2023

Is it or is it not a “date?”

When Amy gets asked out to lunch she has a dilemma. We all know that the disease lurks in secrets, lies, and vagueness. So, this episode is all about clarity, what it is and why we need it. 

My guest Amy Dresner asks this question and more as she embarks on this a healing journey around sex, love and dating in recovery.

Learn how I answered this question and have a laugh, have a cry, get ready this is real talk. You would expect nothing less from us, right? Right.

Amy Dresner is a journalist, author, and former comedian as well as a recovering addict and alcoholic. She was a regular columnist for the addiction/recovery magazine since 2012 and has freelanced for, Psychology Today, Vice, Salon and many other publications.

Her first book, “My Fair Junkie: A Memoir of Getting Dirty and Staying Clean,” was published by Hachette in 2017 to rave reviews from critics and readers alike. Elle magazine compared Dresner’s darkly comic memoir to Carrie Fisher’s “Postcards from the Edge” and Mary Karr’s “Lit,” calling Dresner’s book “one for the ages.”

Dresner has appeared on the television show The Doctors and on numerous radio shows and podcasts, including Dr. Drew, Dopey and Rich Roll. She does regular speaking engagements around the U.S. She is the co-host to Joe Schrank of the new Rehab Confidential Podcast. Her book is currently in development for a TV series.

In This Episode:

[0:10} Amy’s dating dilemma. 

[1:05] What Amy’s friends are saying. 

[2:40} Is it a date? Or is it not a date? Dude. 

[3:31] I see mixed messages, come here/go away, fast forwarding the clock, and a slippery slope. 

[5:38] No wonder Amy feels crappy, he’s dismissing her feelings. Red flag yo. 

[8:25] Amy knows what to do but she doesn’t want to do it. 

[8:44] Are you a bandaid for someone’s else’s wounds? (I think not!)

[10:30] Amy has come so far and we are on the verge of a game-changer… why now? 

[11:35] Amy admits she’s sending mixed messages too. 

[13:33] News Flash: Spending one-on-one time with someone you’re attracted to is a DATE. 

[19:16] What about Amy’s needs? She decides to ask for clarity and with my help she gets it (see postscript). 


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