YOU HAD ME AT BONJOUR - Ep. 11 - "Rebuilding"

Dec 14, 2023

How do you rebuild after withdrawal?

Amy begins the process of rebuilding; creating a vision, moderating her reality, and enforcing boundaries.

My guest Amy Dresner is determined to become secure in both recovery and relationships. This is how we do the work ya’ll.

Follow along in this episode as Amy reviews the latest worksheet for rebuilding and create your own vision and boundaries!

My guest Amy Dresner is a journalist, author, and former comedian as well as a recovering addict and alcoholic. She was a regular columnist for the addiction/recovery magazine since 2012 and has freelanced for, Psychology Today, Vice, Salon and many other publications.

Her first book, “My Fair Junkie: A Memoir of Getting Dirty and Staying Clean,” was published by Hachette in 2017 to rave reviews from critics and readers alike. Elle magazine compared Dresner’s darkly comic memoir to Carrie Fisher’s “Postcards from the Edge” and Mary Karr’s “Lit,” calling Dresner’s book “one for the ages.”

Dresner has appeared on the television show The Doctors and on numerous radio shows and podcasts, including Dr. Drew, Dopey and Rich Roll. She does regular speaking engagements around the U.S. She is the co-host to Joe Schrank of the new Rehab Confidential Podcast. Her book is currently in development for a TV series.

In This Episode:

[2:02] Amy claims her vision.

[3:45] She nails it when she describes a partner who is Accessible, Reliable, and Engaged, the qualities of secure attachment.

[6:28] Amy identifies some of the specific points where she struggles in moderating her reality.

[10:12] There are two issues we identify: sitting with uncertainty and not speaking our truth.

[10:23] I ask Amy if her reality was denied as a child, her reaction communicates volumes.

[11:40] Amy reveals how much she struggles with boundaries and why. 

[12:49] We have to honor our own boundaries if we want others to.

[14:12] The trouble lies in ENFORCING the boundaries, can I get an amen?

[17:55] Amy shares a brilliant insight about when she can’t respect other people’s boundaries and why.

[19:55] Amy is ready now to begin the Ideal Parent Figure Protocol, and create a new internal working model for relationships!

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