The Secure WomanÂ
Break Free From the Fear of Being Alone And Become Confident in Who You Are
Stop Second-Guessing Yourself, Stop the Hurt, and Stop Driving Love Away
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You may not even realizing you're doing it, but many of our negative patterns can drive Mr. Right away. Â
Using my signature process of Clarity, Self Responsibility and Inspired Action, this 60-day container has the power to make the unconscious conscious so that you reclaim the power of choice and get the love you want.
Backed by the latest insights from attachment science and relational trauma, we'll explore your negative patterns and uproot them so that you can become the most secure, authentic, and confident version of yourself.Â
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HERE'S WHAT YOU
MIGHT NOT KNOWÂ
➡️  Research shows that Insecure Attachment is behind every mental health issue from addiction to PTSDÂ
➡️ You’re not “too sensitive" or "too much," you just need to feel safe and protected, this is the foundation for all healthy relationships
➡️ Your attachment strategy is the lens through which you see EVERYTHING -- love, yourself and the world -- so it affects EVERYTHING from your relationships to your ability to earn to your physical health
➡️ You can be magnetic without performing. Desirable without chasing. Get your needs met without feeling like you owe anyone. Â
➡️ And security? It’s not something you find in another person. It’s something you become
EARLY BIRDS ALSO GET THESE BONUSES
"I started working with dufflyn when I was in the deepest throes of heartbreak and thought the sun would never shine again. It seemed like I was dealing with various shades of abandonment, betrayal and rejection in different forms in my romantic, friendship and professional relationships. And that's when I began the work, which gave me the understanding of my attachment issues, in community with other women doing the same things, that gave me real insight into my own behavior and choices which even therapy hadn't really shifted much. Less then six months later and being aware of my pattern really has helped me avoid repeating it in all areas of my life. "
Megan, Paris FR
Shh...I'm going to let you in on a little secret
Becoming secure isn’t about never feeling anxious.
It’s about knowing exactly what to do when you do.
It’s not about being perfect, aloof, or endlessly “healed.”
It’s about being present, self-honoring, and emotionally sovereign.
The secret isn’t in fixing yourself.
It’s in finding yourself—beneath the patterns, the people pleasing, the panic, and the pretending.
You don’t have to chase love.
You just have to come home to the part of you that always knew how to receive it.
And that’s exactly what The Secure Woman will help you do.
Module 1
The Anxious/Avoidant Loop
- Identify the hidden beliefs and emotional patterns keeping you stuck in overthinking, fear and self-doubt
- Break the addictive cycle of fantasy, rumination, chasing or avoiding love
- End emotional caretaking and reclaim your energy from overfunctioning in relationships
Module 2
Secure From the Inside Out
- Shift your inner dialogue from panic to power
- Learn tools for emotional regulation, self-soothing, reparenting
- Create the internal safety you’ve spent a lifetime seeking in someone else
Module 3
Boundaries That Hold You (Not Push Them Away)
- Build boundaries that feel like protection, not punishment
- Communicate your needs clearly and calmly—without guilt or shutdown
- Release shame and self-blame and anchor into unshakable self-trust so that you can form and maintain relationships based on mutual respect
Module 4
Choose Yourself First
- Learn the art of secure self-partnership so that you can be more resilient and adaptable
- Start dating and relating from clarity, not craving so that you can connect more deeply with others
- Call your energy home from unavailable, confusing, or chaotic connections by prioritizing your needs
Frequently Asked Questions
What people asked before signing up for THE SECURE WOMAN
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What If I Have Already Done a Lot of Work?
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💕 This Is for You If…
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You’re tired of feeling anxious, clingy, and alone or running away from love, feeling obligated, or staying in something that's not right for you
You want secure, soulful connection—and don’t want to abandon yourself to get it
You’re ready to stop just understanding your patterns… and actually change them
Here’s what you’re getting when you enroll today:
✔️ 4 Deep-Dive Group Sessions (90 minutes each)
✔️ 2 Private Coaching Sessions with Dufflyn
✔️ Reflection prompts, somatic practices, and reparenting tools
✔️ Supportive, like-hearted community of women walking the same path
"I enjoyed the positivity and the step by step process of the workshop. I came away with a clear understanding of my patterns and of what exactly a loving boundary is. Dufflyn was fantastic and very knowledgeable. Highly recommend. "Â
- Janique, New York, USA
“I was finally able to hear my own voice asking for what I need and ultimately helping me define my vision to create stronger healthier loving relationships. It was also important for me to hear other participants share their experiences and achievements."Â
- Evyan, Rome, Italy
"I really had some problems with dependency, codependency and addictive behaviors and Dufflyn helped me see what my needs were with clarity and particularly just letting me see who my best self is."Â
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