Getting Intimate With Amy Dresner – Ep. 10


Do people say you’re too intense?

Well you could just tell them, “Hey that’s me, love me or leave me.”

But Amy reveals that she actually feels panicky, anxious and lonely in that reality. So we go through the moves to uncover a new reality that feels freaking awesome.

Come have a laugh with us and learn some helpful tips along the way if you want to learn to “moderate” your reality, and you know, what is that even?

My guest Amy Dresner is a journalist, author, and former comedian as well as a recovering addict and alcoholic. She was a regular columnist for the addiction/recovery magazine since 2012 and has freelanced for, Psychology Today, Vice, Salon and many other publications.

Her first book, “My Fair Junkie: A Memoir of Getting Dirty and Staying Clean,” was published by Hachette in 2017 to rave reviews from critics and readers alike. Elle magazine compared Dresner’s darkly comic memoir to Carrie Fisher’s “Postcards from the Edge” and Mary Karr’s “Lit,” calling Dresner’s book “one for the ages.”

Dresner has appeared on the television show The Doctors and on numerous radio shows and podcasts, including Dr. Drew, Dopey and Rich Roll. She does regular speaking engagements around the U.S. She is the co-host to Joe Schrank of the new Rehab Confidential Podcast. Her book is currently in development for a TV series.

In This Episode:

[1:44} Does intensity equal neediness?

[2:35] What’s the difference between faith and magical thinking?

[6:32} Tip #1: Self Regulation works better than Auto Regulation or even Co-Regulation, that’s where you want to get to in order to be secure in relationships. 

[5:15] Moderating Reality, Amy’s got her finger on the button.

[5:51] Amy recognizes the ways in which she’s NOT moderating her reality.

[7:46] Amy reveals she’s never trusted herself, but her intuition is returning slowly but surely. 

[9:31] “magical thinking” can me measured and controlled and then it’s more like faith and resilience.

[12:05] Amy’s favorite Russian proverb.

[14:52] Amy reacts to my suggestion of self compassion.

[16:30] Amy takes on a small challenge to increase her meditation. Go Amy go!

[18:56] Amy wants to reach out to someone who isn’t good for her, and the thought behind that? Maybe it’ll be different this time… who hasn’t thought this at least once in life?!

[19:17] BUT IT’S A LIE!

[21:00] Amy nails the false reality she’s been living in! Yes!


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